I would argue that our favorite albums could be are life’s major checkpoints. They stand on a border between what our life has dealt us and what is about to come. When we re-listen to some of our most beloved works of music, we relive experience through a kaleidoscope lense of fragmented moments and memories that are beautifully framed by the lyrics of each song. Sometimes, we can see the distance we’ve traveled since our first listen, or we realize we‘re still stubbornly standing on the border. When I listened to Taylor Swift’s RED album, I understood how poignant, heartfelt, and beautiful her lyrical prose was, but I didn’t initially relate. A year later, there isn’t a better benchmark to my last year and a half than RED.
Each song on the RED album is a time capsule.
Each song reminds me of a month past, or a smile I’d never seen before, and the kiss I was waiting for, or a sleepless night, and the promise of a hopeful morning. Looking back on the last twelve-ish months, and all the “moments of newfound hope, extreme joy, intense passion, wishful thinking, and in some cases, the unthinkable letdown.”, I am at a place of newfound peace with the extremity. In hindsight, I can clearly see what 2012/2013 was meant to teach me, and I can honestly say that I learned what I was meant to learn. The lessons are complete. This class session is over. The wishful thinking and the unthinkable letdown have led me right to this crossroad. The imagery of all things “bright, burning, red” continues while I imagine the imagery of what 2014 will look like. I can only see a horizon. An era has definitely ended, but one is definitely beginning. I’m dusting off my highest hopes. The prolific RED epoch has come to a close, but I’ll “remember it all too well”
Everything you love is here
- Kim McMillen (via animalcrown)
1. Are tolerant and accepting of each other.
The enduring couple understands there will be things that will push our buttons, but they don’t get hung up. Accepting another’s differences is loving them for who they are, not trying to change them. Our partner will stretch us, yet we accept each other in total.
2. Appreciate each other.
Meister Eckhart said, if the only prayer you said in your whole life was, “thank you,” that would suffice. My husband is a regular clown. I am blessed to have a companion for whom fun and pleasure is ever ready, always in steady supply, and I know it! I don’t forget to appreciate this in him. Likewise, I know he appreciates a playmate and all I bring into his life because he shows me in words and action on a regular basis.
3. Are one another’s best friends.
Charlotte Kasl, author of If the Buddha Married says long-term couples start out as best friends and endure for this reason. Our partners are the people we confide in, tell our stories to, and are our preferred companion of choice. We are first and foremost, friends.
4. Are together, but lead their own lives.
We don’t have to share the same interests to enjoy each other’s company. Astrology reminds us of how different we are, that we each have different soul karma and life purpose. We join into an “us” consciousness but we are also free to lead our own lives.
5. Hold up a mirror of our most excellent self.
Many of us are more likely to downplay our strengths, and without people who can see us clearly some of us would miss out on our strengths altogether! To behold our partner’s most excellent self, we see the best in them but we’re also real. We see them clearly.